Tools for Grief
Most of us wake up every day with the perspective that life is promised to us. It usually takes a death of someone close to you to be reminded of your mortality. It forces you to take a step back and truly revaluate your life, and the overall meaning of life. It forces you to seek answers to questions that you previously never asked.
Most of us aren’t prepared for loss because we spend most of our life avoiding the idea of death or contemplating the idea that those closest to us can be taken from us at any moment. It is for this reason that when tragedy strikes, most are unable to cope because it comes as such a shock. Most are completely unprepared to handle the death of someone they love. We feel sorry when we hear stories of other people who experience tragedy and loss, but we never truly sit down to think that it could happen to us at any moment. The sad realization is that its not a matter of “if”, but “when”.
Everyone dies, and everyone will experience great loss at some point in their lives. Since this is an inescapable truth, why do we avoid the inevitability of death? If we truly spent time meditating on this idea, we would be better prepared for it when it is our turn to experience loss. We would gain the tools necessary to navigate life after tragedy and loss, and we should do it at a time when we would be most receptive to it, which is before the actual event occurs.
Most of us seek these answers and tools to help us navigate through grief at the lowest and most difficult times of our lives. When we try and make sense of life after loss, we are naturally in a state of disarray and sadness, which makes it more difficult to learn any new practices or concepts that may help soften the pain of grief. If we better prepared ourselves before these inventible events occur, we can gracefully get through our most difficult moments, because we would already have the tools necessary to cope with our loss. We would immediately go into practicing mode, instead of learning mode.
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